chicken pox

Last week Stephen had chicken pox this meant a whole week off school.

Well this has been the happiest we have seen Stephen for a long time( the chicken pox never really bothered him), no morning fight to get ready, no sulking and locking himself away in the evening and he was even talking! which for stephen is a very rare thing, he used the most words we have ever heard him say. the only stressful moments were when he had to go out the door to walk to the school to collect his brother and sister.

During the week he showed us how much he can do when relaxed, he done painting pictures of trees, a small amount of writing and number work and best of all he showed us he can spell, he was using a cbeebies game where you made a picture and he typed his own name into the banner at the top, after he printed his one he made one for his little brother checking with mum that he had got all the right letters in Derek’s name.
it just goes to show how much school affects him we would not normally have any of this and his behaviour is unbearable, either grumpy and hiding or angry and violent.

To top things off this morning Stephen was back to school and the usual arguments happened again, would not stick to the routine and did not want to get dressed. This evening he had an after school gymnastics club which he enjoyed but after dinner he spent the evening on his computer and/or in front of the t.v .

Not long now until the summer break, then hopefully either special school or home educating in september, I cant keep seeing my boy shut down like that after just one day back!



School holidays are always a strange time in our house. The older kids are never seen as they are either out with friends or glued to t.v’s and computer games, and Stephen and Derek are just Stephen and Derek – happy, playful contented little boys. But this Half-term was different, Stephen has been really off definitely now himself. ¬†I think school was getting to him, and he dose not understand why we had to see the doctor last week.

The older kids have been told about his diagnosis but have started overcompensating for him and his needs, so we got some books from the national autistic society to help them understand how to behave with him…

  • My Brother is Different – this is a great book for younger ones and kids who don’t read very well
  • Everybody is different A book for young people who have brothers and sisters with autism – provides more detail for the older ones

Our eldest has also been reading;- The curious incident of the dog in the night time – which i think is a great read for anyone who knows people on the spectrum or not.


On Monday we went for a family day out at Highwoods country park in Colchester, We went for a 2 hour stroll around the park taking in the views of the meadows, the town and animal spotting. Stephen was really enjoying the fresh air and seeing all the different places and hunting for the animals, but the further round we went the more we could see he was struggling to process everything, it got to the point where the last little bit he was almost being dragged to the end while he was only watching his shoes. When we got back to the visitor center we sat down for our picnic and an ice cream Stephen relaxed again as he knew where he was, after lunch we had a little play in the park and sat by the lake but be 2P.M all the kids were fed up so we headed home via the pets shop to get a new hamster ball for the schools hamster which we are babysitting again this week. Stephen slept the whole way home!

Tuesday was another frantic day as we had birthday party to attend, Stephen socialized for a little, well he was in view and played pass the parcel, after a couple of hours he disappeared, when i found him he was sat upstairs in his cousins bedroom, on the top bunk of the bed playing with fireman sam toys.

Tomorrow we are going to have our last fun day of the half-term before the arguments begin again tuesday morning to get everyone to school ūüė¶ so we are going to Walton on the Naze¬†to explore the naze and burn some energy.



On a different subject Jo and I have had some tough decisions to make regarding Stephens schooling, I think we came to a mutual decision and we discussed it with Stephen. It is quite interesting to hear a 5y/o’s view on his own education and how he wants it to happen, I have always known Stephen is smart but sometimes it does make me wonder who is the one with learning problems???? He even had reasonable arguments for why he wants it that way.



What a week

Well it has not been the easiest of  weeks in our house this week.

We have not had¬†too¬†many issues with the school this week after the meeting with the¬†complaints¬†governor- it was quite productive and he could see my point of view on there the school is failing us. My favorite quote from the meeting was’ we¬†don’t¬†have any modern¬†parents¬†at Frinton primary school they are all¬†dinosaurs’¬†referring¬†to the fact that the other¬†parents¬†don’t¬†believe¬†there should be any¬†special¬†needs¬†children¬†in¬†their¬†school.

Stephen was showing how clever he is this week as our daughter was doing her SAT’s this week so every night she was on the computer doing revision, we walked in a couple of times to find her watching telly and stephen¬†answering¬†the maths revision questions for her…and he was getting them all right, even the ones she could not do!?!


We had a disaster with our youngest on wednesday where he managed to slice his finger open. Which caused a lot of upset in the house, apart from Stephen who did not understand that his little brother was hurt, he even

thought the trip to the hospital was fun.  Fortunately the cut looked worse that it was and only required 2 paper stitches the huge bandage is only to stop him pulling the stitches off.

Over the weekend we struggled a little with Stephen as we were trying to prepare him for his sister being away on her year six trip, there were a lot of tears shed and tantrums – I not sure he understood the fact that she would be back at the end of the week. lol



And so a new weeks begins hopefully not as eventful as the last but you never know what is¬†around¬†the corner. Nikkita’s on her trip, Derek is on the mend, Leon and Jack are being¬†themselves¬†and Stephen is plodding along in his own way…..We will have a Diagnosis this friday(about time) YAY




The story so far

Before I start posting¬†regularly¬†I thought I’d fill everyone in on the story so¬†far.

Stephen has been under the care of ‘community¬†pediatrics’ ¬†and speech¬†therapists¬†since before he started Pre-school but is so far undiagnosed(suspected autism)

As he is non-verbal the pre-school taught him makaton so that he could communicate with them, us and others.

in September 2012 he started at a mainstream Primary school and the issues began….

  • No makaton training was¬†provided¬†to staff so they could communicate with him
  • there has been and still is no/¬†very¬†little communication between the school and us
  • stephens is starting to act out(he has hit one LSA, and today thrown his chewie bangle at her)
  • He hates swimming but there is little support for him

these are the worse bits there is a lot more but to much to type….

I have a formal complaint in with the board of governors, and have been getting advice from Autism Anglia, regarding how to proceed. And we have been looking at other schools, for 2 reasons

  1. to see what SEN services they offer
  2. with a view to pull stephen out

I am going to use this to tell people about our issues and how we deal with them so anyone in a similar place can see how we are working through it and hopefully help them.